Why I’m a “Blessed Girl” (And You Are Too)Bijou2 days ago5 min readSo, I was going to write another post about being burnout, overwhelmed, juggling too much etc. You know the one. Then following up with the usual requests to.“Rest more.”“Slow down.”“Protect your energy.”But honestly? Sitting down to write this - I’m not in that energy anymore.The first quarter of 2026 came with somewhat of an underwhelming start. BijouCREATES had been riding the waves of the up and down and to be completely honest, I think I have been too. Feeling a bit unclear about what direction to drive forward next or having clear next targets.And then I thought screw it. I’m not just “coping.” I’m building. I’m expanding. I’m becoming. Through all the hecticness, work and projects, paused and thought wait - aren’t I so fortunate ?! To be able to pursue my passion and freedom to develop my dreams. BijouCREATES is far from perfect, but I am able to manifest and realise my designs into something that is independently my own. Which is something I’ve wanted since I was a little girl.I am a lucky girl…. more than that. I’m a blessed girl. And so are you. The Lie of “Balance”We’ve been sold this idea that life should feel evenly distributed at all times.Work. Rest. Social life. Health. Creativity.All in perfect harmony.But if we’re being honest that never really happens! (At least it never really happens for me!) If you’re building something — anything meaningful — that’s not reality of how things often work out. As a mid/late 20- Something year old myself, my friends, peers and I, find that we’re all at such different stages at life, depending on what we’ve chosen to focus on. Some seasons are intense. Some days are chaotic. Some weeks feel like you’re being stretched in every direction.That doesn’t mean you’re failing. It doesn’t mean that at all. It might mean you’re growing.A few weeks ago, at my flat in SW, London I hosted a super cosy girl’s night with some of my closest girls and of course a spring girly aesthetic! The topic of conversation always eventually turns to how hectic we each are. And no lie, as women in architecture we truly are pretty ram packed. During the night, my girl C spoke about how much she admires my ability to juggle all the different project I have going on, which of course is followed by the quintessential phrase, “How do you handle it all?” – And honestly girl I love you, but I hate this question. (Oh, so much!)The honest truth is that I don’t. - Not really, not consistently.I am constantly switching between periods of hyper productivity and bed rot burnout! For me at my current stage, perfect balance is an idealised myth. Alongside the imagery of the cool, glamorous, boss girl founder. Equipped with the activewear, iced coffees in one hand and MacBook in the other. – Yeah…that’s not me.Frankly, with where I am now, I say, forget idealised, dreamy, aestheticised realties and embraced the organised and unorganised chaos. What I used to call “burnout” …was sometimes just friction. And that feeling, Isn’t always a warning sign.Even then, I can’t help but feel lucky to have so much to do. Not lucky in fact, blessed Let’s Redefine “Blessed”Being blessed isn’t about having a perfect life. It’s not aesthetic mornings, flawless routines, or having everything figured out. It’s not about finally reaching some ideal version of life where everything clicks into place.It’s about recognition. It’s about choosing to see what’s already here —what’s already holding you, supporting you, shaping you.It’s this:The people in your life who love you, even imperfectlyThe ideas in your mind that keep pulling you forwardThe freedom to choose, even in small waysThe fact that you get to try, to build, to becomeBeing blessed is less about what’s missing and more about what’s already present.And actually, letting that land.When I think and process this, it is shifts so much of thinking and allows me to reflect and say huh? I truly am a blessed girl.Things That Make Me Feel Like a Blessed GirlNot in a highlight-reel way.Not in a perfect-life way.In a real, I actually stopped and felt this kind of way.Because for all the ambition, all the building, all the becoming…this is what it’s really about.Because being “blessed” isn’t just about where you’re going. It’s also about what you already have — what’s already holding you, shaping you, supporting you.Even as you reach for more. Final ThoughtsSo, there we have it, from burnout to blessed because that is what I am.And you know what, you are to!As I write this, I hope this vibe shift is something that maybe you resonate with. One of my biggest learnings I’ve taken since running my business is reliance. You have to learn to take the good with the bad and the highs with the lows. As in wider life things can change so fast. To understand that, even when things aren’t working out or if you’re in a tricky spot, keeping perspective on the bigger picture. You are still so blessed, don’t lose sight of what’s really important! I think part of why the word “blessed” has been sitting with me so much lately is because Easter is just around the corner. One of my favourite times of year. Not just as a date in the calendar, but what it actually represents — renewal, sacrifice, new life. As the end of the church year also, I always, found this time to be more of a natural restart period for me to reset, than the bareness of January every has.When I really stop and think about it — the opportunities I have, the ideas I carry, the ability to build something of my own… that’s not just random. That’s grace. The idea that things don’t have to be perfect to have purpose. That there can be growth, even though uncertainty. That something meaningful is still being shaped, even when you can’t fully see it yet.I know not everyone practices faith, so maybe we can think of Easter as our own UK version of Thanksgiving?! Of course I’ve never partaken in the American holiday exactly, but what I love from my limited knowledge, is the moments to be self-reflective and thankful.To end this blog, I challenge you to think of 3 things that make you feel blessed. You don’t have to tell me! just something to remind yourself during what can be turbulent times or these low moments that inevitably will happen for us all. I can’t give you a perfect answer to “How to balance it all” but what I can promise, is you once you start noting all the things you DO have, you’ll be surprised how many blessing have been with you all along, that you’ll be oh so thankful for. – I know I amLove Bijou, One blessed girl to another x.
